Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Dominance in Conversations

Last week I went to the career center to talk to a counselor about my resume.  She kept on talking and talking, never stopping once.  All I could get in were some questions and ahuh, and head nods.  It seems like I don't interact that well with people who talk a lot.  They throw so much out there, so fast that I simply cannot think of something decent to say.  I believe that I interact the best with someone who about half extrovert and half introvert.  That way, they're not spouting out random boring stuff and I can actually interact with them.  I believe that this was the reason Katherine and I got along so well when she and I met.  She wasn't super outgoing nor was she super shy and quiet.  She and I bonded quite nicely cumulating up to her telling me that she was in love with me.  And then I blew it.  Sigh.

Anyway, speaking of Katherine, I stated that I've gone through the memories of me and her together and analyzed the variables that allowed me to get along so well with her before.  I thought I had gone through every variable, but I realized that I did not go through variations of those variables.  Initially I thought that working in the hospital and being surrounded by a whole bunch of women made me relaxed around her, but that wasn't it, that wasn't the environmental variable I was looking for.  The reason she and I became so close is due to the lack of external forces.  When she and I worked together, all the nurses were off doing their own thing, leaving Katherine and I alone.  There also wasn't much work to do so the only thing she and I did was socialize.  I think this is it, I think I found out what is needed for me to get close to someone.  Now, how am I going to make this happen?  Hmm.

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